Waking up after a night of a depression take-over is like waking up the next morning after being drunk. Seriously, it’s the same feeling. Your head pounds, things are hazy, you still feel like shit, and you don’t remember that you were listening to songs like “No No Square” until you see the tab up.
When you have a mental illness and you don’t feel like going to school it does not make you lazy or stupid it meANS YOU’RE FUCKING DEPRESSED
Depression =/= laziness.
In a recent post I made on FB about being depressed and I was told to “fake it till you make it” which of course came from someone who does not suffer from a mental illness.
Some depression is linked to real illness, or a reaction to medication, or other factors that simply nodding and smiling won’t fix. Chemical imbalances aren’t cured by pretending everything is great. While I think putting on a brave face and trying to consciously alter your frame of mind into a positive one is a good idea, think the real step here is seeking the help one needs to suit their individual case. Whether it truly is of a clinical variety or something a friendly ear will help with, validation is paramount to recovery.
Yes, our language creates our reality, but some things are not so easily smiled away.
I’ve always hated that “advice”. It’s great if it works for some people, but it’s not the answer to everything and all types of mental illnesses (as Lactoria noted) …, or illnesses in general for that matter.
It’s a psychological trick, “pretend you’re happy enough, and your brain will eventually think you are happy, so you will be happy.” Except … with mental illness, the chemicals in your brain are off, and mix that with medication side effects … what will work for a “normal” person, rarely works for someone with [permanent] brain damage.
I have found /that saying/ to always be said by people who do not suffer from mental illness, too … and believe me when I’m saying that I’ve heard it a lot.
It’s not only their lack of empathy in the matter, but I also can’t help but to feel rather bitter by it.
Yes, they /may/ be trying to help … but to me, it just sounds like, “Smile and pretend you’re happy, so that we don’t have to listen to you and put up with your shit.”
Note: The cure for asthma is not, “Just breathe!”, and the cure for cancer is not, “Stop growing those cells!” Similarly, the cure for depression is not, “Just be happier!”, and the cure for anxiety is not, “Stop worrying so much!” These are not phases of life for teenagers and the weak-minded - they are serious and chronic medical illnesses.
Reblogging this every time I see it.
So tw: self-harm, ED.
tw:suicide; tw: eating disorder
I wish I knew what people who don’t have depression think about all day.
There was a photo going around a couple weeks ago, of a Google search, and it said “School makes me-“, and a bunch of negative things came up: suicidal, depressed, anxious, sad.
Would anyone out there like to share your stories with me? What unfair things teachers have done to you, how you were oppressed, and how you were mistreated by your peers.
I need some research for what I’m writing, since it’s about how messed up “the system” is, and how people who are different get treated.
Please only share what you are comfortable with telling, if at all.
This seriously describes me, what I was told to do, and how I have been acting.
I can’t say I blame them anymore though…heh.